My name is Tursha. I have been married for 17 years to the best guy in the world - my best friend and soul mate. I know you are thinking "gag me, please," right? Well, it is true. I have three children and a great career working with the same company for more than 15 years. I truly believe that there is a reason and purpose for everything that happens in your life, whether it is good or bad. Of course, we hope for all the good experiences, but sometimes the experience you thought wasn't so good, turns out to be the best that ever happened. There are many such events that happen over the years in your life. However; I will have to say this one surely topped the list for me.
I would like you to travel back in time 19 years ago with me to January 13, 1992, at around 9:30 p.m. I am in labor and have just gone up to my hospital room. I am extremely nervous yet elated at the same time. At this point, I still had no idea of the reality of this situation and how it would turn my world upside down and inside out. Trek forward to almost thirteen excruciatingly painful hours later when the beginning of my life really began.
My daughter, Brantley Morgan, a beautiful 8 lb. 4 oz. bundle of joy, was born. She had a head full of shiny, jet-black hair and definitely a fully developed healthy set of lungs. I was exhilarated and pretty amazed that this little person was living inside of me for nine months. I remember vividly the moment in the hospital when I realized that this was not about me anymore. I would no longer be able to do what I wanted to do or not do anything at all if I didn’t feel like it. This moment of realization came when I was fast asleep, exhausted from my awe-inspiring performance. Several minutes later, I got up and fumbled my way around to change her diaper and learn how to feed her. To be completely honest though, at this point, I was far from being won over by this new person who literally pushed her way into my life.
A month or so later, I lay in turmoil in my bed. It is 4 a.m. and Brantley has been asleep for five hours. She has never slept this long. Is she sick? Is she breathing? Of course I had to check on her and of course, she was fine. I knew then that I actually wanted to be a mother. I had to protect my little cub. I would give my life for hers without hesitation. I felt deep inside what I was forever longing for: unconditional love.
As Brantley grew, I was also growing. I was starting to feel good about me and to love the person I was. She showed me that I was pretty enough and smart enough. She didn’t care how much money I made or if I had a prestigious job. I was no longer afraid to ask questions or say hello to a total stranger at the check-out line in the grocery store. I stopped trying to be what I thought everybody else wanted me to be. Through this unconditional love that she so unselfishly gave, I finally developed my self-esteem that I never had. Once I achieved this, others began to take notice and doors that were once sealed shut started opening. I aspired to do better for her and for myself. I enrolled in a technical school and soon after completing, was hired as an IT tech with the company I am still working with. Along the way I met my husband. I truly believe this would never have happened had it not been for Brantley.
So, here I am 19 years later continuing my journey. Along for the ride, I have my husband and two more little cubs to protect, teach, and try to be a good role-model for. Every day I learn something new from them. I wake up every morning wondering what this new day will have in store and eager to get it started. I have started a new chapter in my life. I am back in school and looking forward to expanding my knowledge. Life is full of struggles, but with an avalanche of great times and events thrown in. I do know that all I need I already have. This is the love and support of my family. So I say to you; life “Whatever your next challenge or test may be, bring it on because I will pass it with straight A’s.
About the Author: This article was written by Tursha O'Brien, Rasmussen College student based at the Fort Myers, FL college campus. Tursha wrote this article for a English composition class.